I'm Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy
In the memoir I’m Glad My Mom Died, Jennette McCurdy grants us a view into her life. I admit, the biggest reason I picked up this book is because I knew Jennette from the Nickelodeon kid’s show iCarly when she played Sam Puckett. A lot of people have thoughts and ideas of what someone might be like outside of television. But little did I know that there are a lot of secrets to Jennette McCurdy’s life. She is more strong, brave, and compassionate than I ever imagined. And she had to be in order to survive what she did.
It was interesting and effective how throughout her book, she writes in the perspective of her younger self. For all the time that had passed, she did an excellent job recollecting and explaining her memories of her feelings and thoughts as a young child that a reader can make sense of.
She took on a full load of emotional and mental responsibilities as a young child. The parent is supposed to take care of the child. But Jennette based her life on taking care of her mother up until the day she passed away. She took on the responsibility of keeping her mother as content as possible. Though, keeping a manipulative and controlling person content was probably more challenging than she expected. She didn’t get to experience a normal childhood like making friends or going to birthday parties. Instead she spent her life working to achieve her mother’s dream, becoming an actress. She dedicates her time to auditions and classes, anything to get her more roles on TV and make her mother happy.
When we are children we usually think that the things happening in our home are normal and that it is supposed to happen like that in families. At a certain age, we come to realize that what we grew up to believe is normal, might not have actually been the most stable or safest environment. With Jennette, it took more than 20 years to truly accept that she did not grow up in the stable and appropriate household with the heroic mother that she thought she did.
Jennette was 21 years old when her mother passed away. And even with all of the close calls, nothing could prepare her for the emotional impact this took. You would think she would get a break from the unexpected, but life doesn’t work that way. As life keeps throwing curve balls she has to have some way of feeling in control of her life. Jennette tries multiple ways to cope with the difficulties that she goes through in her life, substance abuse and an eating disorder being near daily ones. But through therapy and support from her friends, Jennette is able to dig up her strength to the surface and face her challenges. As the human being she is, she stumbles and falls, but each time she fights her way back up and keeps moving forward.
Throughout everything she has been through in her life, she has learned how to fight for what she wants. She quit acting and started writing and directing like she wanted. She’s also fighting the battle of recovery from an eating disorder. Jennette McCurdy is an inspiring, brave, and intelligent person. And I wish the best in her recovery and the remaking of her career. I appreciate the time and effort she put into sharing her story. This is definitely a 5/5 rating for me.
And please respect her wishes, don’t call her Sam from iCarly.